Infidelity is one of those topics that everyone has (1) a STRONG opinion on and (2) a visceral emotional reaction to. Primarily, that reaction is devastation. It is a deep betrayal, a deep rejection, a wound most people fear. Infidelity is also very, very common. I’ve collected a bunch of stories (+ one film, + one podcast episode) on cheating.
“It is not a wonderful thing for a man to leave another woman for you…” This is a devastating piece of prose.
The Cuckold – one man’s story of uncovering his wife’s infidelity. It’s slow and arresting, you come to understand the depth of the deception as he does. He’s a poet – it’s beautifully written, but it’s the pace and rhythm of this piece that meant it burrowed into my brain.
Cheating Happens, on Death, Sex & Money. One of my favourite episodes of this podcast. Hearing the interviewees’ voices makes infidelity seem so god damn ordinary. The presenter doesn’t judge; her objectivity that makes this work.
The finale of The Good Wife reminded me how women still pay a price for the mistakes of their husbands. They are humiliated when their husbands stray. Ann Friedman examines how Huma Abedin could respond to her husband’s public infidelity in a way that her boss & mentor, Hillary Clinton, could not.
It’s not an affair exactly, but female friendships can be deeply intimate. Sometimes they cross a line:
This, one of my favourite films, is the perfect compliment to the above.