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Seven stories on infidelity

Infidelity is one of those topics that most people have a strong opinion on and a visceral emotional reaction to.

Infidelity is one of those topics that most people have a strong opinion on and a visceral emotional reaction to. Primarily, that reaction is devastation. It is a deep betrayal, a deep rejection, a wound most people fear. Infidelity is also very common. I’ve collected a bunch of stories (+ one film, + one podcast episode) on cheating. 

  • “It is not a wonderful thing for a man to leave another woman for you…” This is a devastating piece of prose.

  • The Cuckold - one man’s story of uncovering his wife’s infidelity. It’s slow and arresting, you come to understand the depth of the deception as he does. He’s a poet - it’s beautifully written, but it’s the pace and rhythm of this piece that meant it burrowed into my brain. 

  • Cheating Happens, on Death, Sex & Money. One of my favourite episodes of this podcast. Hearing the interviewees’ voices makes infidelity seem so god damn ordinary. The presenter doesn’t judge; her objectivity that makes this work.

  • The finale of The Good Wife reminded me how women still pay a price for the mistakes of their husbands. They are humiliated when their husbands stray.Ann Friedman examines how Huma Abedin could respond to her husband’s public infidelity in a way that her boss & mentor, Hillary Clinton, could not. 

  • This is a crazy story telling two sides of the same affair, from the fiance and the “other woman”.

  • It’s not an affair exactly, but female friendships can be deeply intimate. Sometimes they cross a line.

  • Last night.

UPDATED OCTOBER 2018:

Since I first wrote this, I’ve read Ester Perel’s great book and listened to her podcast. Highly recommend both.